Is there a good free bdsm/Alt. dating site? My name is Scott and I am 23 years old. I am from Mt. Pleasant, MI. I am recentley divorced and i am now looking for fun, friends, romance and more. I am very submissive and would like to know if there is a free and decent online bdsm or alternate Life website? Thank you ever so much! |
| I really like Fetlife.com. |
Are there free personals websites that cater to gay singles into BDSM? I am seeking a gay male slave(s) and can't find personal sites that cater to this. I find alt.com irritating. Any suggestions? Thx, Master J. |
| Fetlife.com is pansexual and more of a social networking site, but you can definitely find gay male slavees looking for dates or play there. |
Can anyone recommend some good BDSM sites? BDSM dating sites i mean, with bdsm personals on them, preferably uk ones....i have already tried alt.com, fetlife, informed consent, bdsmsingles, collarme.com.......they all suck....i am looking for mistress slave relationship, please help....... |
| Look elsewhere, creep. |
What are some good BDSM sites? I am a submissive male desperately trying to find a dominant female girl from my area, age range 18 to 21 but i can't find anyone....i've tried and signed up to a lot of bdsm hook up sites such as...
bondage.com
collarme.com
alt.com
fetlife.com
and many others but so far i have not found anyone on those sites....i really am starting to think my situation is hopeless........please tell me some good bdsm sites, preferably uk ones... |
Restricting your age range to 18-21 year olds isn't going to be that productive. Most girls that age probably aren't going to be confident enough to play the role of a domme other than role playing with their boyfriends, much less going out to a public site.
By the rules of supply and demand, dominant girls are a hot commodity. There'd probably be a line of guys a mile long willing to give their left nut (quite literally, hehe) to submit to a teen aged domme girl.
If you're looking for someone who's already into that lifestyle, you should probably consider widening your preferred age range. Your other option is to find a girl who's around that age and is predisposed to that lifestyle and work on cultivating it in her. |
How do I find a professional master? I am looking for someone who provides the service of dominance through the BDSM arena. Any site I use such as ALT, only comes up with people who have interest in the area- but are not experts. Where do people go to find good professional Doms? |
Be careful doing this on the internet--you can wind up with some crazy psychopaths.
Some people go to bdsm clubs or read newspaper ads. Craigslist.com has classifieds for erotic services, but like I mentioned above, please be careful. You could also go to Myspace--there are tons of people into that sort of thing that network through myspace. |
BDSM Chat Venues? I used to enjoy the Yahoo User Rooms, but since they are no longer extant, I'm seeking another venue for BDSM chat. I'm aware of MSN Chat and alt.com, but would like information on other chats that are good ones. By "good", I mean they have a largish user base and allow users to open their own rooms. Am I dreaming, or is there something like that available? |
| I think bondage.com has a few chat rooms..not sure about user created ones.. |
Is there codes in the BDSM world? Similar to the gay hanky codes?
alt.xmission.com/~trevin/hanky.ht…
I'm new to the BDSM scene and I want to know how to single I"m a female submissive. |
I know you say you are a sub but have you ever concidered being the dom. it really is a lot of fun. hell i'd have to say it is a lot of fun to play both roles. it is also a good idea to learn both roles because it really will make you better in the role of your choice if you truely understand the other role. i really like a book called "the sexually dominant woman" it tells all about safe words (which are really really important in a sub/dom relationship). you can find it at www.christiesfuntoys.com/prod_inf… even though it is about the woman being the dom it has alot of useful info in it that can help you as a sub.
just remember please that info is the key in the world of BDSM. you have to trust the person you are with because you can get seriously hurt and if the person you are with is not a true dom then they are not someone to be with. your dom should take your safety as a main priority. if you are trying this with someone you are in a commited relationship with it is a lot of fun. my husband and i have tried it and we did enjoy it. if not another book you may want to look into is SM:101 it is not a lot of fun to read but it is very informative. BDSM is a very serious thing and you should know what you are getting into before you try it. |
Question about BDSM lifestyle/relationship? I'm 19 and looking for a relationship, but I'm not sure if I'm ready for a very serious relationship, nor a very casual sexual one. I'm into BDSM (sexually, not in an entire relationship) and I'm currently looking on sites like BDSMsingles and Alt (which sucks, btw, don't bother with it) for someone who is willing to casually date with the potential for longterm, who is into a BDSM relationship.
My question is, most of these men live far away and if we met, I would be expected to have sex--which could be potentially dangerous--with them, and I won't do that. How do I express this without sound like a nag? I want to meet people and I would consider relocating, but it's dangerous to invite strangers, especially people from a site that often contains violence, to my apartment. I don't have any friends here to back me up. What should I do? It's not like I can go out to a bar and shout "Who wants to possibly fall in love with me (and tie me up)?" |
You really need to strike up a conversation with these people first, get to know them, find out who's genuine and who's just looking for a quick fumble under the duvet. Take your time to get to know them and for them to know you, this way you'll be far more comfortable around them and can make it perfectly clear you don't want sex on the first date. That last part is most important, make sure they know that above all else. Also make your limits regarding BDSM perfectly clear. You might sound like a nag, but the only people that are going to be put off by that aren't worth your time.
Treat meeting someone from the BDSM scene the same as you would any other date; don't just go around to their place for sex, go somewhere public. Have a nice meal and get to know each other face to face. Again the people that would turn this down are the people you don't want to bother with in the first place.
Personally, I wouldn't want to introduce BDSM into my relationship until I was comfortable with the other person and knew they weren't just going to tie me up and leave me there while 20 of their friends came around. Don't rush into things, make sure you go at your own pace and that the other person is going to respect that. The first time they don't, ditch them. Your safety and well being are more important than them getting their kicks. |
I have been fantasizing about BDSM; what should I do/what websites should I check out to chat for free? I am interested in men, women, man/woman couples, or woman/woman couples. I have never participated in any sort of BDSM before, but I've been having some really potent fantasies lately and want to check it out. I made an account on alt.com and just the list of activities I might be interested in made me wet. Are there any free chat sites or recommended sites a beginner could go to? I really don't want to pay a membership fee for anything. |
| www.thebdsmsite.org/ |
Looking for a Personals website? I'm trying to find this free personals website I used to go to. It was for people into the ALT sex-style (like bdsm and stuff). It was totally free. Anyone know the site I'm trying to think of? |
| gay.com? they have sections for anything. |